How To Speak With No Words

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The trick to making an impact is saying NO.

NO I will not use 10 words when 1 will do.

NO I will not use words when letters will do.

NO I will not use clauses, pauses, parentheses, or participles that dangle.

NO I will not be afraid of the gaping silence at the end of my short sentence.

NO I will not use big words that sound vague and condescending.

NO I only have space to focus on 1 thing at a time.

And so will you.

How Your Morning Can Make Your Entire Day

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Unless you are a diehard morning person, you and I probably share the same feeling about getting out of bed on cold winter mornings.

Who needs that?

If you live near the ocean, the winds don’t help.

I had a particularly challenging day ahead of me which made it even harder to feel good about unfurl myself from my blankets.

This is what I did to get myself out of my morning funk and into a day that I felt really good about:

  • I got out of my car and walked on the boardwalk into the dark sand.
  • I saw the moon fading and the sun rising in the same sky.
  • I took 20 big deep breaths with my eyes closed.
  • I told myself I have everything I need to make a great big dent in the universe today.

And do you know what?

As I drove away, I believed it.

Find your own inner sea shore and sink your toes in the sand.

I guarantee your next 24 hours will feel like a day at the beach.

Meditation for Tired People


OK, I confess.

Just because I wear yoga pants all the time doesn’t make me any more limber or enlightened than you.

Meditation is something I try to do as part of day because it does something for my state of well being.  It is one of those things you wonder why you don’t do more often.

Of course, you usually say that when you’re done doing it.

Not when you are about to do it and especially if you are too tired to get out of bed in the morning.

That is why I am such a big fan of beditation.  Meditation for tired people.

Don’t get me wrong. This is never going to take the place of true meditation.  Its only virtue is that it is a step in the right direction.

However, I believe the commitment to the process is the true journey whether you are a yogi or you simply wear yoga pants.

This is why I am not beating myself up over my meditation practice.

Which, in a nutshell is this:

Whatever I can do, I do.

Try it and see if you don’t feel just a little bit better about yourself.


How to Negotiate for Love


When you first think these things in your head, you can’t imagine really saying them.

Over time, these encounters will become more and more frequent.  And so will these thoughts.

Eventually, you say it. There. It is out there and now what are you going to do?

In my experience, it is a natural thing that two people will have different interests. Two people who love each other will find a way to make it work.

And that is what love truly is.  Always being willing to give and take, compromise, negotiate, bite your tongue, bide your time, forgive and fall in love all over again.

Love means never having to say you can’t knit.

Does Anyone Care About What I Care About? What About You?


I hate getting turned down.

I know that rejection is part of failure is part of risk is part of being creative as much as success.  Which is what successful people tell all of the unsuccessful people with that irritating “There, there” – ness barely masking their relief that they are not you.

Let me set you straight:  It is always better to get what you want.

How do you get people to love what you do?

The best relationships begin by giving.

I know an artist who got sick and tired of being turned down for funding to do her project so she decided to the project anyway.  It was a resounding success and people loved it!  She swears it was because she didn’t feel like there was a funder looking over her shoulder.  Now she is doing another project where she is asking her fans for support and she is getting it.

Sometimes you give first, and then you get.

The “reciprocity trigger” is a strong psychological principle that can work well in your favor as long as you are sincere in you desire to give people something of value.  People will want to give back and help you.

So, the next time you are pitching a project, give it away first.